Recently I’ve been feeling a bit burnt out. A bit resentful that I don’t get to do anything for myself. It all came to a head when my husband said he was going to the cinema to watch the new Venom movie with his friend. To be fair, he did ask if I wanted to go with him first, but childcare is always an issue with us. But it just struck me that he can just go out with his friends as and when he wants to without any real thought for the children because he knows I’m there to take care of things. And before anyone gets offended, this isn’t a pop at my husband. He deserves a night off just as much as I do, and he very rarely goes out with his friends, so I don’t begrudge him a night out. And he would absolutely say to me that if I want to go out, I can, but as a breastfeeding mum, it’s not that easy. This is just a ponder about how hard it can be as a mum to do anything for yourself. But sometimes we really do need to just take five. Just five minutes to do something for you and have a little bit of self care. So I’ve come up with five quick and easy things I can do to take care of me:
1) Read a book or magazine
I have the Amazon Kindle app on my phone, so instead of mindless scrolling social media when I’m feeding Henry, I’m trying to read a bit more as it’s something I really miss doing from before I had children. I used to read on average two books a week! I think since having had Alfie three years ago, I’ve read two books, total! So I need to up my game and take a little bit more time to fit in some reading. It doesn’t even need to be anything heavy or intellectual – I’m currently reading a Lindsey Kelk book. Or even grab a magazine and have a flick through that – just something that isn’t your phone!
2) Have a bath
I used to hate having a bath, I didn’t find them relaxing at all until I had a baby. I loved sinking into a hot bubble bath when I was pregnant with Alfie, and that love has continued ever since. I just don’t get the time anymore! I haven’t had a bath since having Henry, which is something I really need to change! Craig even bought me some nice bath stuff so I much make sure I make the time soon to enjoy a bubble bath!
3) Treat myself with online shopping
I rarely buy anything for myself anymore. If I’m doing online shopping, it will be for the kids, or for my friend’s babies! The only thing I “treat” myself to is fabric, but that is so I can sew things for the kids, so I don’t think it counts!! I am determined to treat myself though, so I’ve been browsing Kigu of London for some new jewellery that isn’t a teething necklace! I’d love some small earrings to wear that Henry won’t be able to pull on and will make my ears sparkle a little bit again!
4) Listen to Music
You can mostly find Disney, nursery rhymes or Baby Shark on my “most played” playlists on my phone at the moment and I miss listening adult music! I can’t say I have the best taste in music, but I like what I like and it’s nice to be able to chill out to some old school cheesy love songs now and again. I used to fall asleep listening to music with my earphones in, but I can’t do that now I need to listen out for the kids! So this is definitely a way to treat myself – 5 minutes of uninterrupted music!
5) Bake a Cake
Now this might not sound relaxing to some people, but for me, I love to bake so it’s somehsome I enjoy. I don’t like the cleaning afterwards, so my “me time” would be to bake what I want, and then eat the results whilst my husband washes up! I think I need to have a go at making these brownies again, they were delicious!
So these are five cheap, simply and easy ways to take back a little time for me. I’m determined to do at least one of these each week!
How do you take care of yourself?