1. It really makes me feel sad that you feel sad about it all. You did what was best for you both at the time, and if I was talking about switching from breastfeeding to formula, your advice would be that that’s exactly what I did too, so don’t beat yourself up. I was the opposite, I made a very vague birth plan because I just didn’t think it would be stuck to. I didn’t get my water birth either because my waters broke, so even though I had a relatively natural birth with just gas and air, it wasn’t exactly what I wanted. In the end, I was mostly pleased that they stuck to the delayed cord clamping, Mr Lighty cutting the cord and also Mr Lighty telling me what sex the baby was. I would highly recommend the NCT for taking women through all their options including induction, pain relief and c-sections xxx

    • It’s not silly, you can’t help how you feel. I was surprised how thorough the NCT were, as traditionally they have a reputation about being all about the natural, but that wasn’t the case with our classes at all. Also, our teacher told us, it doesn’t matter if you have a completely natural birth, no pain relief, every drug going or a c-section, there are no medals given out for one type of birth or the other xxx

      • Ah I know what you mean. There are so many things though in motherhood that can make us feel like we’re failing, when actually we are doing a bloody good job! You did amazingly well, you had possible pre-eclampsia, you had no time to prepare for being admitted to the hospital , you went along with what was best for Alfie even though it wasn’t really what you wanted, you went through hours and hours of labour, then had major surgery, then you had to recover from major surgery with a baby to look after; if that’s not something to be proud of, I don’t know what is!! Xxx

  2. Not having the birth you planned can end up giving you some unexpected bitter emotions, I know. I hope you get some of the things you want next time around!. I always have to be induced as I am diabetic in pregnancy but they have been positive experiences for me both times. #justanotherlinky

  3. It’s so sad that most birth plans never really go to plan isn’t it. I am hoping for a few different things this time round.
    Thank you so much for linking up to #justanotherlinky

  4. I can totally relate with this. My first birth didn’t go to plan and I was rushed with blue lights to a larger hospital to go into theatre. So with my second I was told I had to be at a larger hospital but I was able to try fit a water birth. That didn’t happen. I now know there really is no planning for birth. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx

  5. Robyn - The Years Are Short blog

    I didn’t have a birth plan for my first (and only, so far). We lived three hours from the nearest major hospital, or had the option of birthing at a local maternity unit if there were no complications and I was able to manage without pain relief. Because our baby was prem we were sent to the big hospital and he ended up being born on the side of the road on the way there. There were lots of things I’d do differently in hindsight to ensure he’d been born in a safer environment, but having a birth plan wouldn’t have changed how things worked out. I likely won’t bother to do one with no. 2 either (fingers crossed on that!), I just don’t really think it’s something you can plan for. It’s terrific that you were so well-educated during your pregnancy and confidently knew what you wanted, I’m sorry to hear that it didn’t work out as you hoped. It’s a shame that those feelings of disappointment crept in after the initial relief and happiness of bringing your baby safely into the world. I still believe that if mother and baby manage the miracle of childbirth together then that’s a job well-done, regardless of the specifics 🙂

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