We all know there can be a lot of difference between your first and subsequent pregnancies – today Vicky from The Growing Mum is guesting on the blog to talk about the differences she experienced between her first and second pregnancies.
As I’m expecting again, I occasionally reminisce about my first pregnancy and I’m surprised at how different this time round is. First time, everything was new, exciting and sometimes scary. I marvelled at the miraculous events going on inside me. How can I be growing a tiny person? Will I have enough space to fit a human in my womb? This time round, the novelty has well and truly worn off. Experience is on my side so I know what’s coming and yet crazily, I have chosen to do it again. Here are a few differences I’ve encountered so far:
When we announced the happy news for my first foetus, everyone would come up to me and remark on my “glow”, ask caring questions like how far along I am and offer lots of advice. This time there has been no such reaction. In fact, a few new mums, who are going through the sleep deprivation stage, are baffled as to what has possessed me to go through this again. In a way I am glad for the lack of fuss but I do miss the attention.
I read up on everything like what to eat, birth plans and baby development. I took weekly bump photos, signed up to every online newsletter going and got excited about which fruit/veg my baby was for that week. Basically, I tried to soak up as much information as I could. Now, I get a couple of weekly emails which I don’t even bother opening. I have no time to take bump photos or read anything that doesn’t make me laugh.
Preparation for Baby
I enjoyed going over all the new baby things I had bought so far, getting the room ready and making sure the list of “must haves” was all ticked. This time round, as long as everything is clean and in a usable state then there is no way I am buying anything new – regardless of baby’s gender. The grandparents might have a few words to say if a baby girl is in blue pyjamas but it’s my baby. I haven’t even figured out where the baby will sleep when it’s time to leave our room. Maybe we’ll keep baby with us forever so we don’t have to set up space for him.
I extensively researched local pregnancy exercise classes and tried really hard to keep fit and stay healthy. I hated swimming but I dragged myself to the pool every week and made sure I went for walks regularly. How things change. Now, chasing and carrying a toddler around is my exercise. Including eating cake of course.
With my first pregnancy, I would come back from work and immediately slump on the sofa to get some rest and I was pampered by the other half. I obsessed over my bump changes, weight gain and growing body parts – especially boobs. This time round, I am working 24/7 because there is no downtime from being mummy. After the 9 – 5, the little one is fed then it’s bedtime routine. I then have to get ready for the next day and if by some miracle I’m still awake, I get a few minutes of putting my feet up. Also, everything has gotten bigger much earlier which is irritating as I haven’t had time to get used to the gradual increase that happened first time round.
Although with both pregnancies I’ve not had any adverse symptoms like severe morning sickness, this pregnancy feels very different. So much so that I was convinced it was a girl. But the scan set that record straight. During the scan, baby did a big yawn and at that moment I realised that although I am not obsessively marking every milestone, my heart is still truly madly in love with this human and I can’t wait to meet him.