Early February bought another exciting moment for us – our 20 week scan! We were very excited to be seeing our baby again, but a little sad that this would be the last time before the baby was born that we would get to see it! I find it so sad that you only get two scans on the NHS – I know we are lucky to even have those, but after your second scan you then have 20 weeks to wait to see your baby again, unless you pay for private scans.
The 20 week scan is important for the hospital to do checks on the baby to ensure he or she is healthy and everything is growing as it should be. Typically, they will check the baby’s head, brain, lips and mouth, spine, abdomen, heart, stomach, kidneys and limbs. The sonographer will also check the position of the placenta.
A lot of people nowadays use the 20 week scan as a gender scan, to find out the sex of their baby. It is a personal decision whether a couple wants to find out the sex of their baby. Some people like to do it so they can be prepared – knowing if you are having a boy or a girl means you can decorate the nursery to a specific colour or theme, you can buy gender specific clothes, and decide on names. Some people are desperate to have either a boy or a girl, so finding out in advance can help them to come to terms with any disappointment they might have if the baby isn’t what they wanted.
Before we went to the scan, Craig and I had the discussion about whether we wanted to find out the sex of our baby. Craig really wanted to and I didn’t. It was really hard to come to a decision because we both had different reasons for wanting to/not wanting to find out. Craig wanted to be able to prepare for the arrival and be able to buy gender specific clothes, and decorate the nursery and decide on a name. I, however, was looking forward to having a surprise! I liked the idea of waiting until the very last moment to find out if we had a boy or a girl, and I also thought we’d probably save money not knowing as we wouldn’t splurge on clothes and other gender specific items that we didn’t really need!
As we both wanted something different, we had to come to a decision, but we left it up to almost the day of the scan to decide! Even before we went in, we had a final check with each other as to what we were going to do.
So we went in for the scan, and the first thing the sonographer asked us was if we were finding out the sex of the baby. Our reply? NO! We had come to the agreement that we would have a surprise this time round and once we left the room not knowing what we were having, it suddenly made it all very exciting!!
The scan went well, everything was perfect with our baby and we got another photo to take home. We were halfway there now, only 20 weeks to go!!